Hello, Michelle. How are you? Hi, Aubrey. I'm good. I'm good. Um, when was the last time,

if you, this is kind of, you know, on the spot, the last time you experienced false hope,

maybe canceled plans, a vacation. I think it was during CO. There were a lot of canceled plans and

canceled vacations during CO and yeah, that was rough. I think a lot of a lot of listeners out

there probably had similar experiences. I don't think I know anyone who didn't have something

canled because of COVID. And then and we sort of didn't feel like we could complain about it

because much worse things were happening. We knew people who were very ill or dying and um

so it didn't you know we didn't feel like we could complain about a canceled trip and that

almost made it worse because sometimes if you have false hope and you're disappointed it's

okay as long as you can vent about it a little bit. So that sort of made it even worse, right?

Yeah. [laughter] Yeah. So Aubrey, recently we did an episode um where we mentioned this expression,

but we could tell I think I recorded this with Lindsay that this was really something that could

use a whole episode. Um so we are going to share that episode name and number towards the end of

this episode so you can listen if you are if you haven't already. And also make sure you hit the

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like Michelle said, hit follow wherever you're listening to podcasts so you don't miss any

of our great episodes. Awesome. All right, so let's get into it. So again, we touched on this

uh expression. Um, yeah, but we just wanted to expand upon it. So, today we're going to

review the meaning, but we're going to really dive into the emotional meaning behind this word. So,

how is it used in common situations where you will hear it? So, Aubrey, what is false hope? Yeah,

this is interesting. It's, you know, having a hope or an expectation for something positive,

but then the outcome is doesn't happen or maybe it's unlikely because you maybe you don't know if

the outcome will happen or not. Um, you could have false hope when something doesn't turn out. Yeah,

I think a lot of times there's false hope because of something else, right? So, somebody

says something uh that gives you false hope or you see something that gives you false hope. Um,

so for example, they said I might still get the job, but I think they're just giving me false

hope. So, you're saying it's unlikely. They maybe they don't want to be mean. And maybe they're

scared of upsetting you, but they know you're not getting the job, right? Yes. This happens a lot

in relationships, for example. He keeps saying, "We'll get back together." But it feels like false

hope. Often it's more about someone trying to save someone else's feelings or not say something

that's too blunt and cruel. It's harder to say, "We're not the match. I just think we're not the

match." But that's really the more kind thing to say. Don't give someone false hope when it's

over. Yeah. It's so hard. Yeah. Exactly. Yeah. So, is false hope a good or a bad thing? Aubrey,

that's really interesting to think about. It's often seen as unkind or irresponsible, especially

like I was mentioning in relationships, but also a job. Someone gives you false hope that you're

going to get a job, that could be devastating. You could turn down another opportunity because

you think you're going to get one and that could be really ruinous. Yeah. Or I mean, false hope