DATING MISTAKES: Letting Things Fizzle Out

"Hi Mike, it seemed kind of strange to send to send you an advice question over Facebook".

Yeah, I suppose it is.

It is kinda strange

Isn't it?

Hm.

Ten years.

So I started seeing this guy a few months ago, and it was pretty casual at first

because, we both went into it both knowing that we were both moving to different cities.

So I'd figured we'd both moved on when we both moved away.

Fast-forward to today.

It's been two months since we both moved and we're both still talking [regularly]

and still like each other. However I've come to the realization,

especially with my new life and my new city, that I don't think we're meant to be together.

I feel like I should put an end to things; as undefined and whatever we have is.

[However] I've always been the one on the other side: the one being left rather than the one leaving

an' I realise I don't know how to do that.

I don' wanna just drift aw-ay and be short with him because having been on the other side of that, comma

I know it hurts not to know why someone is losing interest, or seems to no longer care.

I also don't wanna drag on our regular communication and wait for one of us to get hurt even more.

Those last two lines are a prime example of why you don't need me at all!

Some friends have told me that just because something is going to end, doesn't mean you can't enjoy it,

and let it be until it's over.

According to those friends, when is it over?

When some'ody throws a cell phone?

When one of you is calling your parents saying, "You're never going to believe what that asshole did!"

Catching things before they get to that point is my favourite.

You don't go to the doctor after your appendix explodes.

And some friends have told me if they were him they'd just want me to be frank with how I feel,

and not hang on to what we have out of circumstance.

I understand both sides which is why I'm coming to you - ha ha ha!

At the end of the day I don't think anyone can give me the right answer; I really don't know that there is one but

your advice and outlook always makes me feel better and hopeful.

And-then-there's-a-fucking-smiley-face and I appreciate it so much

Thank you for saying several nice things

I've been in your position before and it does suck.

It's way easier to get broken up with.

They don't tell you that when it's constantly happening in middle school

One of the only regrets I have left from my dating-times was letting certain things fizzle.

In my opinion: That's not fair.