How to Communicate Assertively 4 Tips

- We're going to talk about how to communicate assertively.

This is a huge challenge for many people,

and I've gotten a lot of requests for this topic

over the years.

In the first part of the video,

I'll compare and contrast assertive communication

with some of the other types.

And in the second part

I'll give you four tips to communicate more assertively.

Be sure to download my free PDF

that'll give you the five essential communication skills

that all professionals should have.

I'll put a link to that in the description below the video.

So let's compare assertive communication

to other types to get a better handle

on how this fits in.

First many people communicate passively.

That's the first type we'll talk about.

This means they essentially avoid expressing themselves.

They have something that's on their mind,

but they don't say it.

And the trouble with this is

that other people cannot read our minds.

And that means there's a very low likelihood

that we're going to get our needs met.

If we don't talk clearly

about what they are in the first place.

A passive communicator is likely to quietly accept

other people's positions.

They'll say to themselves

well I'll just let the other person have their way.

But over time it becomes a pattern.

Driving forces behind passive communication

could be fear, a desire to avoid conflict,

or just a lack of confidence to speak up.

Next aggressive communication is dominating.

People who communicate aggressively,

do a lot of blaming, attacking, and finger pointing.

They'll say things like it's all your fault,